Always Yelling or Shutting Down?

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1️⃣ A question from our community

2️⃣ Our actionable tips

3️⃣ A resource from our toolkit

1. The question

“I feel like I’m either yelling or completely shut down when I’m at home. I hate that my kids see me like this and I don’t know how to turn it around.”

2. Our answer

We get a question like this at least once every week.

And it always hits SO HARD because we’ve lived it.

No matter how much we tried… the yelling, withdrawal, guilt, and shame… it all just kept repeating.

But once we started taking this kind of work seriously, we realized that you can’t willpower your way out of burnout. And that’s exactly what we were (and so many of you currently are). BURNT OUT.

So, our tip of the week…

🌡 Schedule Emotional Temperature Check-Ins

Basically, your burnout is going to build until you snap. Then repeat.

And the first step in breaking any cycle is learning to recognize your state before it hijacks you.

So today, try this:

Set a reminder on your phone to go off every 4 hours (like 8am, 12pm, 4pm, 8pm). Label it “Check My Emotional Temperature.”

When it goes off, pause and ask yourself, “How am I feeling?”

Calm and connected? Anxious and agitated? Numb and checked out?

What’s important is you don’t have to go into fixer mode right away.

Your goal here is to just notice it.

Because… we can’t effectively change anything that we haven’t measured first. So sit with it. Understand it. Process it. Allow yourself to move through it.

Awareness will always be step one. Regulation comes next…

3. From our toolkit

If you’re ready to stop spiraling and want to be better at showing up as the regulated parent you want to be…

Grab our Breaking the Burnout Cycle webinar summary for just $5.

Inside this easy-access, 4-page downloadable, you’ll learn:

✅ What’s really happening in your body when you’re overwhelmed

✅ How to spot your nervous system state in the moment

✅ State-dependent strategies to calm down, reconnect, and recover

✅ Our 5-step regulation framework you can use on even the hardest days

Don’t think of this like another PDF. It’s a reset button that you can reach for anytime you feel yourself starting to spiral (or even better, well in-advance of the spiral).

💛 Click here to grab your copy for just $5

To the members of The Collective… DON’T BUY! You’ll find this downloadable within your Happy Human Library.

And to all of you – please remember…

You never need to be perfect. You just need a moment of awareness and a plan of action to stop the cycle in its tracks.

You CAN break the burnout cycle and grow more into the parent you want to be.

We’re here if you need us. 🙂

❤️Jenilee & Greg

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