How to get your partner on board

“It’s been hard for me and my partner to get on the same page with the kids. We have different ideas on boundaries and discipline, and it's been causing a lot of tension between us. What can we do?” 

In this video, we dig into the tip of: LEADING WITH VALIDATION.

Understanding and acknowledging each other’s feelings and beliefs will always be the first step in finding common ground. Before we can even think about achieving a compromise, we first need to feel seen, heard, and validated.

To do this, we recommend setting aside dedicated time to give your partner space to share what they're thinking without ANY judgment. 

For us… this takes the form of a weekly 30-minute “team meeting” where we discuss the issues that we tend to avoid. Though we’re not perfect at making sure it happens each week, it’s become a somewhat regular “check-in” that’s been helping us better align with and understand each other.

Although it’s easy to feel defensive (or even attacked) during these kinds of talks, just know that expressing defensiveness will only push your partner farther away. It’s a challenge, but we need to do our best to avoid those kinds of reactions, and instead, focus on being an active listener who understands and empathizes.

LEADING WITH VALIDATION will open the door to compromise. 

It’ll put you both in a position to co-create boundaries and strategies that work for the TEAM. 

Remember, the goal is not to win and get your partner over to your side. It’s all about letting go of control, being flexible, and compromise.

From our parenting toolkit:

Are you looking for ways to spark conversation during your weekly ‘team meetings’ or just want to connect with your partner?

We’ve found the perfect game… the BestSelf Intimacy Deck.

This deck of cards is made up of 150 relationship building conversation starters. You’ll find questions like: 

Describe how you’d spend a perfect Sunday.

When you experience stress and overwhelm, how do you like to be supported?

What’s your favorite way to receive affection?

There are also some spicy ones too. 😉

The questions within the BestSelf Intimacy Deck will break down communication barriers and are just straight up fun! Plus, they’re an inexpensive way to spend a date night at home.

We've been loving it and know that you're going to love it too. 🙂 

Get yours by clicking here! 

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