Out of sync with your partner?

Hello, Happy Humans!

We're here with our weekly 3 things...

1️⃣ A question from our community

2️⃣ Our actionable tip of the week

3️⃣ A resource from our toolkit

1. The question

“My husband and I both lose our cool and yell at our kids. I know we BOTH need to change, but he doesn’t seem to agree. How can I encourage him to grow with me?”

2. Our actionable tip

We completely understand how tough this can be. Believe it or not, the two of us didn’t always share the same parenting philosophies either.

As young, new parents, we just didn’t have the education, tools, or resources to know how we really wanted to parent. We were just going off our own lived experiences, which let’s be real, were riddled with bias and defensiveness.

This led to a LOT of disagreements, but we eventually realized that something had to change. One of the biggest factors that helped us move forward together was when we started to…

✅ Plan “Team” Chats

We made it a point to schedule weekly times where we could connect with each other. 

These give us the chance to have open, calm conversations where we could share our thoughts and feelings without any blame or judgment.

It got us to take time away from the chaos to talk about our relationship, our kids, and our family as a whole. 

It became a space to set family goals together. We went into these chats with the expectation that we were going to actively listen to each other (i.e., empathize and validate) and be prepared to compromise.

We would speak to our feelings, and would do our best to avoid any accusatory language. In your case, you might try saying something like…

“I feel really upset when we yell because it just seems to make things worse. I’m thinking there may be better ways, but what do you think?” 

This could open up a discussion without blame which would help your partner not feel attacked (and therefore get defensive). 

Next, and this is the tough part, you’d need to truly hear them out, doing your best to empathize with them and validate what they share, even if you don’t agree. 

This would set them up to do the same for you.

Now, this will all likely take some work for BOTH of you, but that's okay.

It’s all about getting started, doing your best to get on the same team and practicing trying to understand each other. 

3. From our toolkit

You may be thinking to yourself…

“This all sounds great, but I have no idea how to approach this type of sensitive stuff with my partner.”

Believe us, we get it!

Having these types of conversations can feel overwhelming, especially if you’re not used to talking about parenting in this way. 

But here’s the good news…you don’t have to figure it out alone. 

We have so many couples join us in The Happy Human Collective, our parent education and support community, to work on their parenting approach TOGETHER. 

AND… it’s the perfect time to join! 

We just launched the first three modules of our new workshop, ‘57+ Ways to Chill the Eff Out,' and being a member of The Collective will give you early access and all the guidance you need to approach these conversations in a way that feels doable and productive! 

You’ll get access to everything you need to grow as a team, set goals for your family, and find common ground…even when you don’t always agree.

You can use this link to join us in The Collective and access our ‘57+ Ways to Chill’ workshop, our other workshops, biweekly live meetups, and more!

Our 7-day free trial will be in effect until the full ‘Chill’ workshop is ready, so come explore our support at no cost while you still can!

We’ll see you soon. 😊

❤️ Jenilee & Greg

P.S. Our '3 Steps to Repair' workshop will be on sale for 25% off until our full 'Chill' workshop launches!

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We all make mistakes. We’re human. They're GOING to happen. It’s all about what comes AFTER our mistakes that matters most.

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