The Emotional Regulation Lie

Hello, Happy Human! 👋

We're here with our weekly 3 things...

1️⃣ A question from our community

2️⃣ Our actionable tips

3️⃣ A resource from our toolkit

1. The question

“I’ve been using some of your strategies but I still break down and yell sometimes so I feel like they’re not working. Am I doing something wrong?”

2. Our answer

Okay… so we need to bust a myth.

You’ve probably been told that emotional regulation = staying calm all the time.

But that’s not regulation. That’s suppression.

Real regulation means being able to move through big emotions… not ignore them or bottle them up.

So if you find yourself losing it, your nervous system isn’t broken. It’s just doing what it was wired to do:

Release energy and protect you.

You’re not failing. You’re just human.

But yeah… you’re looking for a change. So the next time you feel your rage rising, ask yourself this:

“What story am I telling myself about this moment?”

Maybe it’s something like:

• “They never listen.”
  
• “They’re being so disrespectful.”
  
• “I can’t take this anymore.”
  

We need to remember… those thoughts will fuel your fire.

But you can intentionally swap them for narratives that’ll serve your regulation like:

• “They’re having a hard time.”
  
• “They’re not defiant, they just lack certain skills.”
  
• “We’ve been here before, and we always get through it.”
  

This tiny shift in thinking won’t magically solve everything, but it’ll help to regulate you in real time.

It’ll create space for you to drop the emotional reactivity and show up with an intentional response.

Now if you feel like your emotions just take over and you’re not able to manage your thoughts in the moment…

3. From our toolkit

Our Regulation Bundle is packed with three of our best-selling workshops that will help you develop the skills you need to take control over how you show up.

The tools and strategies we teach you are the exact same ones that we’ve used to:

✅ Manage our triggers

✅ Release stress

✅ Get our kids to listen

✅ Find our calm

✅ Break generational cycles

This Regulation Bundle has everything that’s helped us go from that yelling and guilt spiral to the regulation and connection that our family needs.

And for this week only, you can grab the bundle for over 50% off.

👉 Learn more about the bundle here 

If anything, just know that this parenting journey has been, without question, the harding thing we've ever done.

You are NOT alone in your challenges, and we're here to help if you're looking for support.

Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions.

❤️ Jenilee & Greg